Happiness
By Kezia Tania - Sunday, May 23, 2021
Well hello there whoever currently is reading my blog. I noticed I haven't post anything since January and that means, it's been 4 months since my last post. I may have never mentioned about my birthday but now that I'm 24 years old, some things do change around me (or maybe just everyone growing old).
I realized, I'm now entering the typical "quarter-life crisis" term which people are familiar with. Or at least, here in Indonesia🧐🤔.
Everyone around my age starts to build different plans with their future, trying to "construct" a more successful life to achieve in the future. Be it achieving financial freedom through financial investments, getting married, travelling, to lots of other things we used to relate it to "adulthood".
People say growing up is a trap because you end up sacrificing your happiness to a bunch of responsibilities and people know responsibilities are some sort of like consequences you have previously (and consciously) agreed to accept when you choose certain options in your life.
Some people (and I'm not saying this for those considered as "adults" only but to extend of younger beings called "kids". Yes, kids do.) have agreed to accept the consequences for things they will choose in life. Although I'm aware kids are not fully conscious of the consequences of their options as much as adults do (due to the lack of experiences in life, as what the adults would say) but the point is, they do realise that there will be "no-fun" things they might have to face when they decide to choose to do things they would like to.
Be it, a kid who wants to go for a rollercoaster at an amusement park and his parents don't let him to because they know he will not feel good after it and end up throwing up and get sick. But the kid apparently still wants it, even if he is aware of the consequences told by his parents. His parents, at the end, let him to ride on the rollercoaster.
And it does happen after.
He throws up.
'See? We already told you. You would throw up', say the parents.
'Well I did, yes.'
'How do you feel about it?'
'Great! I want to do it again!'
Well, you see, it's not always illustrated like this where once a person faces the consequences, they immediately still want to do it all over again but, my point was, that even if you know and already experienced the consequences, there is still this satisfaction you receive which is worth the sacrifices.
I'm not saying that people have to sacrifice and suffer in order to be happy. No it doesn't, because it depends on the situation.
So what makes a person able to be happy if not having to sacrifice and suffer?
Accept things and be grateful.
I know this might sound like a "Buddhist" or a "surrender-all-to-God" kind of perspective but you know you can't force things to be exactly what you desire to control in life.
Not everyone and everything is under our control and if you're not happy about it, then accept it, pray for what's best and let God do the rest.
I may not be the most spiritual or religious person but I do believe in God's intervention in every aspect and circumstance of our lives.
I understand that we are given the power to choose things but it's not our "responsability" to lead and make every single thing including every single person around us to follow our "system".
If you think someone is never good enough, then noone will ever be good enough.
You can't always expect people to be the way you want them to be and if that's the case you're facing, you might want to reflect yourself back; are you already being the best person for the people around you? Why and why not?
We don't live to control things under our hands and systems. If we long for that as a wish to do, we're not entirely living our lives I suppose.
People are built and raised differently, with different matters and "spices" to add in life. That's why God "bothered" himself to create different human beings physically and emotionally.
If things are the same, life will never have its "flavours". People will not grow, and life is no longer a life but a system already "planned" and "managed" just for us to play our "roles".
Apparently, life is not a theatre where people are given scripts for them to remember their lines, costumes to be worn, a stage to perform, characters to be played as, and audiences to be impressed.
Life is a gift we all have to be grateful for and to actually, living on it and I'd like to remember and implement it as it is.
-Kezia
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